“All we are not stares back at what we are.” ― W.H. Auden
Our reflections are reflections of ourselves. They depict the story of our lives, our choices, our regrets. And it is seeing what stares back at us in the morning when brushing our teeth, whenever we look into a mirror, and seeing what we look like in the mirror, that we notice our flaws, our failed ambitions, everything about us that makes us ask: “who am I, and what have I done?” But the point of this piece is not to make anyone feel depressed. The aim of this article is to encourage a lifestyle where every moment is lived to its fullest, where we live without nursing grudges, without having to rectify regrets.
To begin, it is first necessary to recognise that life is a journey through tumult and tempest, through numerous ups and downs over which we have no control, and that it encompasses many beginnings but just as many ends.
So the only thing that we have power over in this chaos is ultimately ourselves and what we do. Thus, we need to know how to make ourselves make sure that whenever we join or leave a team, we do so leaving those left behind better off than before we were there. To do this, we need to make sure that we do several things:
First, we need to grapple with our sense of time. More often than not, we think that there will be enough time to do something. Thus, we tend to take time for granted, and procrastination ensues. We need to realise that time is limited — after all, there are only 24 hours in a day, and most of that time is spent sleeping. By coming to terms with the fact that time is a limited resource, we come to appreciate our time better, and have less of an impetus to waste it in engaging in pointless activities such as playing video games.
Once we realise that time is a commodity that we need to muster, the next step is to live each day to the next in a way that is meaningful. By meaningful, we mean that one should do what he thinks will leave a positive, lasting impact on his team and community. Not to say that there is something wrong in slaving over a desk or some other mundane job that does not stimulate one’s senses as much as he would like, but that even in such mundane endeavours, it is possible to find meaning, and make changes in others’ lives for the advancement of the team and society.
By finding meaning in our lives, we come to grow to accept our lives as they are, as we live them, and we let go of our regrets, we forget the wrongs others have done to us, and we are able to lead a much more fulfilling life, such that our reflections do not weigh us down as much. So what are you still doing here? Venture forth, and live today like it will be your last!